DORIS: I liked meeting your boyfriend at the party. I think he seems like a good guy.

JUDY: I'm glad you like him. Steve and I get along well.

DORIS: He's very funny.

JUDY: Sometimes I think he's too funny. He's like a clown.

DORIS: How long have you been going out?

JUDY: Almost a year now.

DORIS: Do you think you will marry?

JUDY: Marry? No, I don't think about it. Anyway, I don't think I'd want to marry Steve.

DORIS: Really? Then why are you going out with him for so long?

JUDY: Why not?

DORIS: You are together so long, and you even live together now.

I'm surprised you don't think of getting married.

JUDY: I don't really want to get married.

DORIS: Not at all?

JUDY: Well, maybe later. When I'm thirty-something. But now I'm too young.

DORIS: Does it bother your parents?

JUDY: What?

DORIS: That you don't want to get married. Don't they pressure you?

JUDY: No, not at all. Why should they pressure me?

DORIS: Usually parents want their daughter to find a good guy.

My parents, for instance, they would be angry if I lived with a guy.

JUDY: Yes, I understand. I've heard that before about Chinese culture.

But in America most parents let their children manage their own love life.

And me, I wouldn't tolerate my parents telling me what to do. I'm an adult.

DORIS: You are very independent.

JUDY: Why shouldn't I be? Who I go out with is my business, not my father's.

If he doesn't like someone I like, then he will tell me.

But if I go out with the guy or not, that's my choice.

Do you want to marry someone your parents choose for you?

DORIS: My parents want me to marry a doctor or a lawyer.

They are happy I got into such a good school.

JUDY: See what I mean? Maybe the guy you fall in love with isn't a doctor.

Then what? Are you going to choose someone just to please your parents?

DORIS: No, I wouldn't. It's true my generation is more independent now.

But still we listen to our parents' opinions.

JUDY: I think it's good to listen. But I don't think it's good to obey.

You shouldn't obey if your heart says something else.

桃樂絲：我很高興在派對上看到你男朋友。他看起來是個不錯的人。

朱蒂：我很高興你喜歡他。史提夫和我相處得很好。

桃樂絲：他很有趣。

朱蒂：有時候我覺得他過分搞笑了，像個小丑。

桃樂絲：你們在一起多久了?

朱蒂：到現(xiàn)在快一年了。

桃樂絲：你會結婚嗎?

朱蒂：結婚?我沒想過，反正我沒想過會嫁給史提夫。

桃樂絲：真的啊?那為什么你會跟他在一起這么久?

朱蒂：為何不呢?

桃樂絲：但是你們在一起那么久，現(xiàn)在甚至住在一起。

我很吃驚你沒考慮要結婚。

朱蒂：我不是很想結婚。

桃樂絲：一點都不想嗎?

朱蒂：或許晚一點，三十幾歲吧。現(xiàn)在還太年輕。

桃樂絲：這會讓你父母困擾嗎?

朱蒂：什么?

桃樂絲：你不想結婚這件事。他們不會給你壓力嗎?

朱蒂：一點都不會。為什么要給我壓力?

桃樂絲：通常父母要女兒找個好男人。

就拿我父母來說，如果我和男生同居，他們一定會生氣。

朱蒂：我了解，我以前聽說過中國人的文化。

但是在美國，大部份的父母讓孩子決定自己的感情生活。

我不能忍受父母告訴我要怎么做，我是個成年人。

桃樂絲：你很獨立。

朱蒂：為什么不呢?和誰在一起是我的事，不是我父親的。

如果他不喜歡誰，他會告訴我。

但是我要不要和誰在一起，那是我的選擇。

你要嫁給父母幫你挑選的人嗎?

桃樂絲：我父母要我嫁給醫(yī)生或律師。

他們很高興我念這么好的學校。

朱蒂：看我說的吧?也許你愛上的不是醫(yī)生。

然后呢?你會找一個人只為了讓你父母高興嗎?

桃樂絲：我不會。沒錯，現(xiàn)在我這一代是比較獨立。

但是我們仍然聽父母的意見。

朱蒂：聽意見是好的，但是順從不一定好。

如果你心里有別的想法，你就不應該順從。