DORIS: I liked meeting your boyfriend at the party. I think he seems like a good guy.

JUDY: I'm glad you like him. Steve and I get along well.

DORIS: He's very funny.

JUDY: Sometimes I think he's too funny. He's like a clown.

DORIS: How long have you been going out?

JUDY: Almost a year now.

DORIS: Do you think you will marry?

JUDY: Marry? No, I don't think about it. Anyway, I don't think I'd want to marry Steve.

DORIS: Really? Then why are you going out with him for so long?

JUDY: Why not?

DORIS: You are together so long, and you even live together now.

I'm surprised you don't think of getting married.

JUDY: I don't really want to get married.

DORIS: Not at all?

JUDY: Well, maybe later. When I'm thirty-something. But now I'm too young.

DORIS: Does it bother your parents?

JUDY: What?

DORIS: That you don't want to get married. Don't they pressure you?

JUDY: No, not at all. Why should they pressure me?

DORIS: Usually parents want their daughter to find a good guy.

My parents, for instance, they would be angry if I lived with a guy.

JUDY: Yes, I understand. I've heard that before about Chinese culture.

But in America most parents let their children manage their own love life.

And me, I wouldn't tolerate my parents telling me what to do. I'm an adult.

DORIS: You are very independent.

JUDY: Why shouldn't I be? Who I go out with is my business, not my father's.

If he doesn't like someone I like, then he will tell me.

But if I go out with the guy or not, that's my choice.

Do you want to marry someone your parents choose for you?

DORIS: My parents want me to marry a doctor or a lawyer.

They are happy I got into such a good school.

JUDY: See what I mean? Maybe the guy you fall in love with isn't a doctor.

Then what? Are you going to choose someone just to please your parents?

DORIS: No, I wouldn't. It's true my generation is more independent now.

But still we listen to our parents' opinions.

JUDY: I think it's good to listen. But I don't think it's good to obey.

You shouldn't obey if your heart says something else.

桃樂(lè)絲：我很高興在派對(duì)上看到你男朋友。他看起來(lái)是個(gè)不錯(cuò)的人。

朱蒂：我很高興你喜歡他。史提夫和我相處得很好。

桃樂(lè)絲：他很有趣。

朱蒂：有時(shí)候我覺(jué)得他過(guò)分搞笑了，像個(gè)小丑。

桃樂(lè)絲：你們?cè)谝黄鸲嗑昧?

朱蒂：到現(xiàn)在快一年了。

桃樂(lè)絲：你會(huì)結(jié)婚嗎?

朱蒂：結(jié)婚?我沒(méi)想過(guò)，反正我沒(méi)想過(guò)會(huì)嫁給史提夫。

桃樂(lè)絲：真的啊?那為什么你會(huì)跟他在一起這么久?

朱蒂：為何不呢?

桃樂(lè)絲：但是你們?cè)谝黄鹉敲淳?，現(xiàn)在甚至住在一起。

我很吃驚你沒(méi)考慮要結(jié)婚。

朱蒂：我不是很想結(jié)婚。

桃樂(lè)絲：一點(diǎn)都不想嗎?

朱蒂：或許晚一點(diǎn)，三十幾歲吧?，F(xiàn)在還太年輕。

桃樂(lè)絲：這會(huì)讓你父母困擾嗎?

朱蒂：什么?

桃樂(lè)絲：你不想結(jié)婚這件事。他們不會(huì)給你壓力嗎?

朱蒂：一點(diǎn)都不會(huì)。為什么要給我壓力?

桃樂(lè)絲：通常父母要女兒找個(gè)好男人。

就拿我父母來(lái)說(shuō)，如果我和男生同居，他們一定會(huì)生氣。

朱蒂：我了解，我以前聽(tīng)說(shuō)過(guò)中國(guó)人的文化。

但是在美國(guó)，大部份的父母讓孩子決定自己的感情生活。

我不能忍受父母告訴我要怎么做，我是個(gè)成年人。

桃樂(lè)絲：你很獨(dú)立。

朱蒂：為什么不呢?和誰(shuí)在一起是我的事，不是我父親的。

如果他不喜歡誰(shuí)，他會(huì)告訴我。

但是我要不要和誰(shuí)在一起，那是我的選擇。

你要嫁給父母幫你挑選的人嗎?

桃樂(lè)絲：我父母要我嫁給醫(yī)生或律師。

他們很高興我念這么好的學(xué)校。

朱蒂：看我說(shuō)的吧?也許你愛(ài)上的不是醫(yī)生。

然后呢?你會(huì)找一個(gè)人只為了讓你父母高興嗎?

桃樂(lè)絲：我不會(huì)。沒(méi)錯(cuò)，現(xiàn)在我這一代是比較獨(dú)立。

但是我們?nèi)匀宦?tīng)父母的意見(jiàn)。

朱蒂：聽(tīng)意見(jiàn)是好的，但是順從不一定好。

如果你心里有別的想法，你就不應(yīng)該順從。